How To Mend A Broken Heart

Healing a broken heart takes more than time, more than keeping busy, and much more than putting on a happy face and getting on with your life. Well-meaning friends and family sometimes make the situation worse by urging you to do things that are supposed to help, even if the timing is all wrong for you, or you just can't stomach the thought of dating again when all you want to do is curl up in a ball and melt into a puddle of tears.

Ultimately the journey of mending a broken heart is a journey of coming into the light of love, and meditation can be your greatest guide. Meditation can be the gateway to renewed happiness.

Emotional Healing Remedies

There are several powerful emotional healing remedies that you can perform during meditation.

The first is to begin your meditation by sending out the healing energy of love. You may think that you've got nothing left to give because your grief is all-encompassing but truly, if you concentrate on radiating pure love and light out to everyone - including (especially) the one who broke your heart - that loving energy will also come back to you, and it will come back to you very quickly.

Nothing is more healing and more comforting than love... and now, you are receiving the love of the entire universe.

As you feel the warmth and light of love radiate through you, visualize your heart. If it appears broken, then visualize it being not "broken" but "open" and you can allow the love and light to enter, and to fill it completely. Every little dark corner can be filled with love and light, until the sadness and anguish disappears.

Heal Your Emotional Wounds

If you do these two simple meditation exercises every day, you will heal your emotional wounds and your heart much quicker than if you close yourself off from love by giving in to the strong pull of sadness, loneliness and anger.

Deep meditation is a state of timelessness and energy. There is no time, only the present.

And right now, in the present moment, you can allow love to enter your opened heart. In deep meditation, you lose the sense of yourself as a physical being that may feel lonely or needy. You become aware of your energetic being-ness that is not separate from anyone or anything - for where does energy end, and where does energy begin?

This will help you feel the loving energy of the entire universe... the energy that created you, and the energy that IS you, both as your physical and nonphysical states.

Dealing With Anger and Resentment

Many times, when our hearts are broken we feel wronged and hurt, and there can be a lot of anger and resentment. Meditation takes you outside yourself and allows you to see the situation from the other person's perspective.

You really have to get outside your own limited perception of reality to begin to empathize and feel compassion for the other person - so you can understand that even the person who does the leaving is hurting too. This doesn't make the person come back, but it is healing for you to not get caught up in the extremely powerful negativity of blame, bitterness, guilt, resentment, anger and sadness.

Allow Your Feelings To Pass Through You

Meditation is also the perfect time to allow feelings to pass through you, without hopping aboard the train of tears. This may be one of the most important things for you to master.

You can learn to do this during meditation when there are less distractions, and then apply the technique to any situation that triggers strong negative emotions in you... which probably happens often after a relationship has ended.

Every time your brain generates a certain emotion in response to a thought you have, it takes 90 seconds from the time the chemicals are released, course through your system, and become reabsorbed or flushed out.

Just 90 seconds.

So for those 90 seconds, focus on the emotion itself - say to yourself, "I feel angry" or "I feel sad" and DO NOT attach to the thoughts that generated the emotion. Just feel the emotion, and in a minute and a half, the emotion will have passed!

If you still feel angry, or sad, after those 90 seconds, it's because you are choosing to attach to the thoughts that preceded the emotional response.

Can you see how powerful this is?

When you master the art of choosing to let emotions pass through you, you can also choose to quickly return to a state of happiness. This takes a bit of practice but it's well worth it because feeling happy is so much better than feeling sad!

You don't have to spiral downward by thinking about the situation! It's important that when you feel your emotions, you DO NOT say, "I am angry" or "I am sad". An emotion is just like a physical sensation. We say "I am hot" or "I am cold"... but that is not really correct.

What Are We Really?

Are we hot or cold, or are we just feeling the temperature in our environment and our bodies? Are we just feeling the physical sensations, or ARE we the sensations? YOU are not hot, or cold, or angry, or sad, or depressed... you FEEL these things, but they are not you. You are only experiencing these things! You are not these things and they are not you.

So allow these feelings to pass through you and subside... and then radiate outward what you wish to receive - LOVE.

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